10/31/2020 1 Comment Questions and Non QuestionsAsking questions can seem like a really good way to show interest and care . . .until it doesn’t.
Curious open ended questions can open up conversations. For example, ‘What’s going on for you today?’ opens up a conversation more than a closed question such as, ‘How are you?’ Specific follow up questions can be effective as well, such as ‘Why not better than ‘fine’ or why not worse than ‘fine?’ I love exploratory questions, such as ‘What do you like about today so far?’ and deeper questions such as ‘How did you come to believe that?’ When we want details, we ask focused questions, such as ‘When did you learn that?’ or ‘Where did you hear that?’ All of these why, what, how, when, where questions have their place. And all of them when used from a place of kind curiosity can feel good to be on the receiving end of. Being asked questions gives us permission to take up more space in the conversation and to share more. And yet sometimes being on the receiving end of too many questions can feel like being in the hot seat. It can feel intrusive. Playing with curious statements or ‘non-question questions’ can sometimes create a calmer feeling. For example, ‘Tell me something about your day.’ Or ‘I’d love to hear more about that.’ Or ‘Help me understand your thoughts on that.’ These non-question questions are invitations to open up and share more and can be a welcome change from too many questions.
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6/3/2024 06:56:55 am
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