Perspective Taking

When in settlement negotiations after a separation, it is important to empathize with your spouse and know or imagine how he or she is feeling. It is equally, if not more important, to know or understand what he or she is thinking. This is called perspective taking. It is often easier to put yourself in the head of your spouse than it is to put yourself in the heart of your spouse. If you are considering proposing a settlement option, try imagining what your spouse might think about it, as well as how he or she might feel about it.